Thanks to the mixture of ancient spiritual secrets, modern science, quantum physics, psychology and, in particular, neurology we now have enough information on how to consciously ruin our lives at a rate we could only have dreamed of until now.
It is my wish, in this article, to share with you some self-destroying habits that I consider particularly practical and effective.
Let Fears Rule Your Life…
To live in the presence of different fears and your cute little “phobias” is most definitely an important step for you in order to ruin your life successfully. However, in order for the process of your annihilation to be thorough it is of utmost importance to be persevering and to hold on always to the thoughts that are supporting the fears you want to ruin your life with.
The main problem with fears is that the great majority of them are completely irrational and when we closely examine them they lose their hold over us. Therefore, make sure your fears are always abstract and never face them directly – because otherwise, they will lose their power and so their influence over your life will weaken. Instead of facing them, you had better just talk about them and look for stories that feed them and support them.
Jim Rohn said that each person is the mean of the five people they spend most of their time with. So, make sure you befriend only like minded people and avoid those who persistently take action despite their fears. Such people are dangerous because their presence alone can embolden your spark to live a happy and fulfilled life.
In the instructing and illuminating biblical story on Job (The Book of Job), it is described how the main character of the story stated that what he feared the most would actually happen to him. Therefore, be steadfast in your fears, nourish them regularly and respect them and you can be sure they will see the daylight, particularly the “greatest” ones.
Look for Mistakes in the Behavior of Others
The more mistakes you are able to find in the behavior of the people you meet regularly, the easier it will be for you to ruin all of your relationships. Be focused and aware while talking to people and don’t forget to bring objections/reproaches and a negative critique every time you get an opportunity to do so. Start blaming others for everything that is not in accordance with your desires and wishes. If the blame game and reproaches haven’t been among your habits until now, try forcing yourself a bit to adopt them as habits and soon they will become completely natural and normal for you. Practice makes perfect. Be persistent…
Avoid the Poisonous Virus of Gratitude
Our freedom of choice is a cause of many problems, and one of them is the idea of gratitude. Gratitude is a powerful, poisonous virus which wakes up all that is positive within us and slows us down on the road to self-destruction.
When we are grateful we feel connected to ourselves and the cosmos and we are accompanied by a sense of love, joy and peace. When grateful we are connected to the divine spark within us and that makes us see the wonders and miracles happening every day around us.
Hence, make sure that instead of being grateful for everything you have, focus solely on what you would like to have, but still don’t have. Such an approach will create a strong pattern of scarcity in your consciousness, which will start directing your mind towards what you lack automatically. When thinking mainly about what you lack becomes your “normal” state, it will be a lot harder for gratitude to find a way to your heart.
Be Steadfast in Defaming and Backbiting New Age Spirituality (or something that inspires you even more)
Always be cynical, skeptical and inimically oriented towards everything that is new and unknown, and particularly towards New Age spirituality and their “mumbo-jumbo” theories. The secret lies in the approach I love to call “a priori attitude”. The point is in simply to take a stance in advance (a priori) that the whole of New Age spirituality is 100% self-deceit, without ever knowing anything about it.
In short, this approach includes two key elements. The first is that your decision must be made “a priori”, meaning before you even know what it is that you are against, and the other is that you won’t bother to try to get informed about what it’s all about, ever. In other words, make a strong and unquestionable “a priori” decision that you will never get to know what you have made your decision against.
This attitude creates strong “exclusivity patterns” in your consciousness and it is a great remedy against tolerance and accepting differences. Jesus Christ and all the great minds ever to have walked this planet were strong supporters of ideas such as love, equality and tolerance. However, since those ideas make us closer to God and open our heart, it is necessary for us to eliminate them from our lives if we want to be successful in ruining ourselves.
I have mentioned the New Age only as an example. And you can do the same with any new phenomenon – e.g. gay marriage – however – what is of utmost importance is to include both of the key elements in your methodology.
The Bliss of Nihilism
Each and every day you should cultivate the state in which nothing makes sense and in which you are too small to change anything. Such a condition will greatly contribute to your self destruction. However, you must be persistent and get rid of all different kinds of nuisances and temptations. Love, joy and peace are deeply embedded in the core of human nature and these energies are very strong and are waiting in “ambush”. People want love, joy and peace more than anything else. Love, joy and peace give the greatest purpose to human existence and if you allow your heart to “surprise you by ambush” and direct you towards happiness, you are exposing yourself to the risk of your life getting a purpose. Hence, keep this always in mind, and as soon as you feel that love, joy and peace are waking up inside you, stop the process immediately and get back to cultivating the condition in which nothing makes sense and there’s no valid purpose to life. The more you allow thoughts that support love, joy and peace to be present in your mind, the harder it will be for you to get rid of them.